I’ve been an on and off nomad for a couple of decade and a half now, shifting to Taiwan after I was 21, touring solo by Asia at 26, and exploring a lot of the world alone all the way in which up till now as a 36 yr outdated. The loopy factor is, over that point I went from a bona fide extrovert to an introvert, and the way in which that I journey solo has modified in consequence.
Although I’m introverted, I’m outgoing. I take pleasure in being social in addition to being by myself. To me, introversion pertains to the creator of the time period, Carl Jung’s, definition. Introverts, Jung stated, flip to their very own minds to recharge, whereas extroverts hunt down different individuals for his or her power wants.
These are all of the ways in which I take pleasure in touring solo now as an introvert:
1. I choose group journeys however get my very own room
Though I really like touring on my own, some journeys need to be achieved with a gaggle until you’re paying 10x for a personal expertise, like crusing on a liveaboard dive ship or island hopping by the Galapagos.
However in every of those eventualities, I get my very own sleeping area.
Since I recharge by myself, I really like having the ability to have my very own area to retreat to at any time when I need it. That made this Galapagos journey excellent, because the boat I used to be on supplied single rooms with out charging a single complement price.
Not each tour makes it potential to have my very own area, however I at all times attempt to hunt down some solitude even on a shared journey.
2. I join day journeys so I’ll meet individuals
Once I desire a combine, I have a tendency to remain in solo lodging like a resort or Airbnb, however I’ll join a day journey in order that I nonetheless get some social interplay.
The secret’s that I enroll and pay for it forward of time, in order that I’ll truly go and meet different individuals when the time comes. I can flip right into a hermit with some ease, so I like committing not less than a day earlier than!
I equally love having the ability to come again to my lodging and be by myself after I need to.
4. I go to locations with a standard curiosity
Whether or not it’s scuba diving, mountaineering, browsing, yoga, or another shared curiosity, for those who go to a spot that’s recognized for certainly one of these items, likelihood is excellent that you’ll meet different solo vacationers who’re there for a similar objective.
I really like that this has a built-in community of people that you possibly can simply meet. Even for those who’re the shy kind, having a standard curiosity to bond over makes it simple to have conversations with individuals. You’ve already acquired issues in frequent!
5. I choose journeys the place I’ll be alone
On the opposite aspect of the coin, I typically take wilderness journeys the place I’m unlikely to run into anybody else for a lot of the time. My frequency has elevated over the previous few years, discovering mom nature an ideal companion.
Final summer time I solo camped in Lassen Volcanic Nationwide Park, spent nearly 2 weeks solo truck tenting in Utah, nearly totally in the course of nowhere with out individuals round, and I frequently enterprise out to the desert on my own to stargaze.
I’d not have loved journeys like this in my 20s after I was extroverted, as a result of I acquired my power from being round different individuals. However now, actually take pleasure in solitude. Solo journeys make it simple for me to recharge.
6. Seek the advice of Fb teams
Fb teams are one other nice technique to meet individuals, even for a quick meet up, which is normally all I need. I created one for solo feminine vacationers, the BMTM Solo Feminine Traveler Join, which many ladies have used to search out journey companions through the years.
It may be a regional one based mostly on the place you’re going, may be for solo vacationers specifically, or some other curiosity group you may be part of. I like to recommend assembly up for a meal, a daytime exercise, or one thing related that has a hard and fast time restrict and happens in public.
Tapping into my community of buddies of buddies has additionally been a good way to fulfill others on the street.
7. Make a 1:1 good friend
As an introvert, I’m equally completely satisfied solo or hanging out with somebody whom I get together with nicely. So long as they’re a great journey companion, I can journey one on one with somebody for days and even weeks with out feeling energetically zapped.
There have been many individuals alongside my solo journey, from sharing a rental automobile in South Africa with Callum to splitting prices and touring with Jen in French Polynesia final fall that each labored out nice for me.
I’ve additionally met two superior ladies initially of lengthy hikes in Nepal and Peru that I initially supposed to do alone, however was completely satisfied to share. Ending the journey with a mountaineering buddy, when it’s the correct individual, typically makes it even higher.
I meet these individuals on the street, or by a mutual good friend, and we journey collectively till it’s naturally time to half methods. Then I get my alone time once more. I really like having this selection accessible.
8. Grasp alone in a crowded area
Typically, visiting a park, museum, market, or another populated place by myself appears like sufficient social interplay for the day. I’d strike up a dialog with somebody, or I won’t. However I can nonetheless individuals watch and get a way of the native tradition. Typically it’s even nicer this manner, with out anybody else to distract me.
I nonetheless get out and do issues, however there’s no stress to make it right into a social state of affairs. I’m open minded to whoever I’d meet, but it surely’s OK if that doesn’t occur, too.
The most effective factor about solo journey is the potential for serendipity. I really like that I may meet somebody at any time at anywhere, however that I may also take pleasure in my solitude as nicely. There’s no stress. For this introvert, it’s the most effective of each worlds.